I broke a promise.
I broke a promise and I felt really bad about it.
6 years ago, I was sitting at my desk finishing up some last-minute assignments on my quest for a higher education. I only had a month or two to go before my program was complete.
As I sat there, I thought about how much work I had put into achieving my Master’s degree.
How many family vacations I spent on the laptop while the rest of the family was on the beach. How many countless nights I was up in the wee hours of the night.
And that one night, sitting at my desk, I made a promise to myself.
Fast forward to today, as I am concentrating on self-development and discovering who I really am. I came across a woman who said that there are 3 Types of Resistance that people usually face when an important decision is needed or an opportunity presents itself. It doesn’t matter what type of business you have – a tradition brick and mortar establishment, an MLM, or on online opportunity, product or service.
The 3 Types of Resistance are:
1) The “Too Busy” Excuse – you just don’t have time
2) Fear – which can present itself in many ways
3) Attachment to Perfection – the perfect outcome
1. The “Too Busy” Excuse
You work a 9-5.
You have kids.
You’re involved in civil and religious organizations.
You’re busy! I get it! The last thing I want to do is to downplay any of the responsibilities that WE ALL HAVE.
This is actually an excuse that busy people use. However, once you make a commitment to something and mark it as a priority, you will find time for it.
Say, for example, you want to lose 10 lbs. Well, you know that you will need to exercise and commit to a healthier diet. You make a decision – and that is all it really is – a decision that this is what you want to do.
All of a sudden, it becomes a priority and you find the time! It works the same way when you DECIDE to start or grow your own business.
To be completely transparent with you guys – this was MY THING. Fear was the main thing that was stopping me from starting and growing my business.
Understand that fear can present itself in all different forms. One of those ways is procrastination.
Procrastination is my middle name!
I’m so serious.
My excuses may sound a lot like yours – “I’ll do it later”, “I’ll do it in an hour”, “I need to do this other thing first”.
For example, I completely procrastinated on writing this blog.
Another way that fear can rear its ugly head is in the form of self-doubt. Thinking that you are not good enough or that what you have to say is already being said by someone smarter or more experienced.
You may be wondering, why would anyone want to listen to me?
I’ll tell you why.
Because you have your own story that is completely, UNIQUELY YOU. You have skills, talents, and a perspective that can only come from you. Your story is going to resonate with somebody!
Lastly, fear can show up in our lives as a form of judgement.
Many of us are on social media with our high school friends, people we work with, family and friends. So, the question we may be asking ourselves is “What are people going to think of me if I start my own business?”
That’s what I asked myself too!
“What are people going to think of me as I take this major step in growing my business?”
“What if it’s too crazy?”
Well, it may seem crazy to them but it’s not to you and me. For us, it makes perfect sense.
Yet, we worry about the judgement of others. Even though, down the line, it doesn’t really matter what other people think because this is YOUR LIFE!
This is what YOU want to do. These are YOUR goals – not theirs. YOU’RE putting in the work while they have nothing to do with the work!
Don’t let the fear of being judged be the reason you give up before you even try.
3. Attachment to the Outcome (of Perfection)
Attachment to perfection can cause you to never start anything because you are overly concerned with “getting it right”. Right?
How many times have you thought about cleaning that coat closet but because you didn’t have the two hours you needed to dedicate to the task – you just never did it?
What happens when we are focused on results is that we neglect to see the smaller tasks it takes to achieve them. What are more important than the giant leaps and shark bites are the baby steps and the piranha bites.
Could you have possibly divided the coat closet into 3 sections and did them one day at a time?
What are those small tasks that you need to be doing daily to be successful in your business?
Do you have a morning routine? How about daily goals in written format?
Or perhaps a list of money-generating activities?
Lists work! I am a living witness! When things are on a list, surprisingly, they get done!
Well…correction. I don’t always get everything done on my list…but without a list – nothing would get done! Or it would all get done haphazardly!
If you show me what you do daily, I will show you where your business will be in 3 months, 6 months, or a year’s time.
I think back to that night sitting at my desk and the promise I made to start my own business right after college. Even though I sat on my degree for 6 years – I still did it!
I hope this article gave you guys some insight as to what may be stopping or slowing you down from the business that you dream of.
Is it one of the 3 forms of resistance?
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